I shared my weight-loss journey a few weeks ago (read here). I had no idea how many lives I would inspire. With countless shares and views! Wow! It was overwhelming! And it was humbling!
Today, I bring forth an interesting, and quite relevant topic in our daily lives; make up, its use, and its effect on our daily lives.
If you read my weight-loss journey, I made it clear that it was more of a mental transformation, rather a physical one that led me towards self acceptance; to believe that I was enough, whoever I was, at every stage of my life.
Typically, Faiza (pre-self acceptance) was not too fussed about make up. I wore it, yes, but minimally. I held the belief that excessive make up was superficial. On the other hand, I also thought that it wouldn’t do much for me as I was not as confident in my own skin.
My thoughts on the matter were probably like most of yours;
“Make up is for women who do not believe in their natural, God- given beauty.”
“Make- up is for women who do not believe they are enough.”
“Make- up is for women who have low self-esteem about their features.”
And so on and so forth.
The version of myself post self acceptance has a completely different stance on the view now; non judgmental one. I came to realise that make up, and by extension, my rejection of it, had nothing to do with superficiality. It had everything to do with self rejection; a belief that I subconsciously held.
MY BIGGEST MISTAKE: JUDGEMENT
I associated make up with women who wore it every day in excess to hide the features they didn’t like about themselves. I assumed I understood every woman’s story, and the reasons they wore make up.
You see, the patriarchal society that we live in has taught us that a woman who applies make up every day has self-esteem issues. That a woman who wears make up to hide her uneven skin, marks and blemishes needs to get real with themselves. That a woman who wears make up does so for the attention of a man.
I bought these beliefs, for a very long time. And I helped to propagate them.
Women are reminded of their physical “short comings” every single day caused by the idea of perfection. We see women with Double Ds, a Kim K ass, silky smooth skin and perfectly done hair every day on airbrushed TV ads, on airbrushed billboards and all over social media. The avenues of belittling women are around us every day, and have been normalised. We have all been programmed into knowing and accepting a new normal; and this patriarchal society that we live in has engraved this ideology into our minds.
I remember fearing that my little sisters would wear a lot of make up. But now when I look back at it, the reality is that I feared that they would be judged for wanting to enhance their beauty.
I have come to realise that women wear make up for themselves. Women get dolled up for themselves. Women do whatever they do to aesthetically improve their looks, FOR THEMSELVES. It has nothing to do with a man. Men don’t even notice when we get our hair cut significantly. We, as women do! We are the ones that compliment each other and ask one another for tips on products. So why must we rely on society to tell us how we ought to want?
If make up makes you feel confident and comfortable, wear it!
Here is what I have learned about women and make up:
We can change our looks, the occasion, our outfits, our emotions and thus, the way in which we are approached and perceived.
Personally, there are certain products I wouldn’t be caught dead stepping out of the house without.
2. Nude/Natural Shade of Lipstick
Without these, I feel as though I look plain, sickly and dull. I want people I may meet to say “Oh! I saw Faiza today! She looked well!” Not, “Oh! I saw Faiza today! She looked unwell!”
This is a great example of the confidence boost miracle of make-up:
I recently saw this inspirational video on YouTube of a burn victim who uses make up to allow herself the confidence she needs to walk outside her home and fit in with the crowd without getting pitiful looks and stares.
So if you didn’t know, let me be the one to assist you on your way out of the judgemental box you’ve been stuck in..
MAKE UP IS FUN!!!
IT ASSISTS CONFIDENCE..
CONFIDENCE ALLOWS US TO BE OURSELVES..
BEING OURSELVES BRINGS US JOY..
JOY CREATES POSITIVITY..
POSITIVITY IS NEEDED IN THE WORLD WE LIVE IN TODAY!!!!
MAKE UP DOES NOT DICTATE WHO/WHAT A WOMAN IS! A WOMAN IS WHOEVER THE HELL SHE WANTS TO BE!!! AND AS YOU KNOW… MAKE UP CAN DO THAT TOO.. WINK- WINK!