I’ve had quite a number of conversations with men and women on the topic “who do you think should pay for the first date”? The only thing that is very clear is that men and women have very different ways of approaching this question.
I can only give you my perception on the matter so feel free to comment below if you have another way you usually approach this. Ok so here goes nothing; your crush has been hitting you up constantly! Trying to ask you out, but you’ve been playing it cool but between me and you, you are secretly jumping up and down and re-reading his messages to your girlfriends. Once you put him out of his misery and finally say yes, the date is now real and soon..
The night finally arrives and here comes the day of judgement, where will he take me? Will I get along with him? Should I ask one of my friends to call me 10 minutes into the date incase I need an excuse to run out of there? Talk about pressure!! I know I can only speak for myself, but I usually start thinking … What if I get food stuck in my teeth and he is too polite to tell me and AFTER a 1 hour conversation I only find out after a quick visit to the bathroom! CRINGE!
If you manage to get through the date with no embarrassing moments, then I would say you are winning! You think ok everything has gone well so far?… I say don’t get excited! The arrival of the check can spark a showdown! So what type of person are you? Should he pay? If he asked you to split it, does this mean you wouldn’t go on another date? What if he says he ‘forgot his wallet at home” does this change your view of him despite just having an amazing time together? Do you believe that the person who asked the other out should be the one to pay the bill?
You see, its not the easiest question. In order to tackle this dilemma, I recently had a poll on Instagram to get a healthy discussion on the topic going (check out the funny videos and results below).
Through direct messages, I got a lot of people tell me it would depend on who asked the other person out. I did find it refreshing to see how many people opted for the split bill option (poll results; 46% would split the bill, 54% wouldn’t dare). I then asked a lot of older people around me and of course the answer was “why are you asking silly questions, obviously the man!”. With a much younger following on Instagram, it showed me that we are definitely changing the dating dynamic, the only question is, whether your date is on the same mental wave length as you, which I guess would determine how you move forward.